Confessions of a shopaholic and 7 ways to control that compulsive shopping disorder.

Confessions of a shopaholic and 7 ways to control that compulsive shopping disorder.

“Live with intention and not impulse”

The inspiration for this post is my Amma’s(mom’s) comment. Whenever I do some shopping, her standard dialogue is, “Do you really need this?” If you see your parents, your grandparents or one generation before them, they would have had a disciplined approach to material possessions. But we belong to a generation who can never have enough or so it seems. As the clothes in my wardrobe are falling all over, I decide that I have had enough. As I was browsing through for a solution, I came across this blog www.becomingminimalist.com by Joshua Becker…. The best part is the minimalism suggested here, is not bare walls and no possessions, but your interpretation of minimalism and what works for you. So the good news was that the clutter I already had could be dealt with… but what about the future and my shopping impulses? I had to look for answers. So here I have for you 7 effective ways of helping yourself….

1. Acceptance

You may laugh it off, but it is as simple as that and as necessary to proceed. Until you accept that you have a problem and you acknowledge the urgent need for reform… It’s not going to work. so first step is to accept ” Yes…I am a shopaholic”..

2. Make your Pal a promise

So now you need to look for a friend who can be firm and yet not judgmental (like a pseudo parent maybe)… Promise your friend that you will not spend, unless the need arises and let this be for a trial period of say one month. If you feel like shopping, put it off for a few days, and it will die a natural death. Maintain your integrity and yes keep your promise on not shopping… “Aakhir Izzat ka Sawal hai” (It’s a matter of your self-respect)!!!

3. Shopping is retail therapy, but sweets are also great

And yes, it’s true. Many times we shop to feel better. There’s a misunderstanding at home, stress at office or you are generally feeling in the dumps, shopping has become our answer for all of this. And with online stores you don’t even need to lift a finger (not strictly true..haha). Now since we are onto tackling the shopping virus, for the time being, just switch over to sweets…believe me they are very effective. And the best way to do this is to take the person who is the cause of your misery for the treat…you can bond over desserts…

Home decor.

4. Gratitude is also a great replacement

Next time you have that impulse to go on a buying spree, stop for two minutes and take a good look at something beautiful you bought last time. The lovely watch, the elegant dress, or maybe the beautiful handcrafted showpiece? Just experience its beauty and feel grateful. The urge to spend will just melt away. Try it!

5. Vicarious shopping

This is the fun part…. Even though you have decided that you will not shop because you don’t need any of it, there are many who need to shop. So identify a couple of friends and relatives who need to shop and offer them your excellent company. You enjoy the shopping experience without spending!
Ps. Did I mention, “You need to leave your wallet behind!!???”

Shopping

6. You CAN do SOME shopping….There’s a SALE!

Yes when the urge cannot be controlled, I do have a solution. Ear mark some occasion or festival for which you need to buy, for yourself and others and make the best use of the opportunity. Do your shopping in advance…go use that sale. You get to scratch the itch and not feel guilty about it. Before you start from home make a list of items and the number of items you are going to buy and stick to it. And yes, don’t forget to take your friend along.

Handbag shopping

7. Pass on the love and cheer

According to me this one’s THE most important. And let me tell you I have seen this work wonderfully. Now whenever I visit an exhibition, I always feel like buying. And of course the ‘temptation’ is such that you can’t deny yourself. It’s like being in a chocolate factory and not having any chocolates… In such a case, think of your distant aunt, friend, mum or lovely neighbor who keeps giving you yummy goodies. Think of others and buy them gifts for their special occasions. This is a win- win-win situation (and yes, I made up the last one)

win – you get to shop(yippee!!!!)
win – someone dear to you lights up with pleasure because you thought of them.
win – you also encourage the artisan who is super talented and needs your business.

I tried this one and gifted my cousin a beautiful dual coloured kantha saree and she loved it. So you are passing on the love for the beauty of the handcrafted to another. Pat your back…

So yes… These are my 7 simple yet effective ways to go about your reformation. And did I mention online shopping websites are not to be opened at all? If I could do it…. Then anyone can do it. So all the best….let’s go back in time to the way our ancestors lived.

I would love it, if you could share some innovative way you have devised, to overcome compulsive shopping syndrome. Share your ideas and let me know how it goes…

Twinkles to you…have a happy day.
Anupama

Kaavi Kale

Kaavi Kale

“Preserve your memories, keep them well, what you forget you can never retell.”-Louisa May Alcott

10 interesting things I learnt about ‘Kaavi kale’ from the artist Mrs.Veena Srinivas

1. The ‘Aha’ moment when I learnt the name

I have to mention this. Though I had already come across this art form on some temple walls in North Karnataka I did not know it was called ‘Kaavi kale’. So yes, this is the first thing I learnt . Thus named, because it is a monochromatic red colour with fine white lines. Kaavi is the colour of mud,an Indian red and Kale means art.

Sahasra Arjun on Ram mandir

Mythological characters on the walls of Ram Mandir, Honnavar

PC- Dr.Krishnaji

2.This art form originated from the Konkan region under the patronage of Gaud Saraswat Brahmins

It is believed to have originated from them, but as there are no documents on this, nobody can be sure. The art form can also be found on some of the walls of houses in Goa. The Gaud Saraswat brahmins migrated south, with the Portuguese invasion of Goa and along with them, the art form. This can now be seen on temple walls in Sirsi, Kumta, Ankola, Honnavar, Mavinkurve, Kundapur, Udupi,Kollur and Ambalpady.

3. More than the features of this art, it is the method which is most astounding

Kaavi is the local name for the Indian red pigment also called ‘uramunji’,found in the laterite soil. As the coastal belt receives heavy rainfall, the art lovers from the Konkan region came up with this unique art form around the 16th century. To ensure it survives the tough weather conditions, locally available materials were used to prepare the wall for plastering. Seashells were burnt to obtain Snow White Lime, which was then mixed with jaggery and clean river sand. This was allowed to ferment over 2 weeks. It was then hand pounded to obtain a mixture as soft as butter but which would harden on application onto the wall. The kaavi pictures’ outline would be marked and then the butter like, lime mixture would be mixed with uramunji to obtain the Indian red for the murals. These were applied on to the wall for the portion marked and then using Steel bodkins the etchings were engraved as per design. This would expose the white lime just below the surface and result in the final image. This etching would be done when the application was neither too wet nor too dry. After a day’s drying, over a week this would be sprayed with water every four hours. After each spray they would be polished with smooth pebbles from river beds. This treatment prevented cracks in the mural and they lasted forever. When I say ‘forever’, Ram Mandir in Honnavar was constructed nearly four hundred years ago, but the beauty of the pictures on its walls has not diminished.

Ganjiffa Raghupathi Bhat workshop

The artist partiipated in the Sampradayika Kaavi Kale workshop in 2012. This was conducted by the famous artist Ganjiffa Raghupathi Bhat. This was done using the traditional and aunthentic process of ‘Kaavi Kale’.

4. Change in career track from realistic art to ‘Kaavi Kale’

I have always been interested to interact with people who have changed their career track and learn what helps them make this transition. The artist, Mrs.Veena Srinivas had been working on realistic art for more than 8 years and was very successful at it. But she was candid enough to tell me, that she was having doubts about her artistic future. It was then, that she came across these beautiful paintings on the walls of Shri Mahalasa Narayani temple of Kumta constructed in 1565 A.D . The red colour and fine white lines called to the artist in her. She found that it was a dying art and decided to dedicate her time and talent to its revival. With this she found her niche and ‘calling’ as an artist. With three successful exhibitions, her initial misgivings on its reception were laid to rest. Sometimes the path you choose, becomes the path to your success and this was exactly what happened to the artist.

Dashavathara, Lord Vishnu's incarnation

The artist with a friend at her exhibition. The Dashavataara, an original work of art by the artist.

5. Defining Characteristics of ‘Kaavi Kale’

In ‘Kaavi kale’, we mostly have mythological characters, geometric patterns and some common figures, such as men with boots, guns and topi(hat) which depicts the Britishers, ruling India at the time. There are images of the brahmin performing pooja, a dancer, a couple relaxing and so many more. So this art form was a reflection of the life around them. In Kollur Mookambika Temple some original figures are still retained. It is interesting to see art reflecting the times and the passage of time. The Gods and Goddesses also have particular features. The ladies have the nose ring, elaborate hair-dos and ornaments, the nine yard saree tucked at the back (kaccha form). The detailing can be seen in the beautiful long delicate fingers and intricate ornaments.

Ramayan scene

Sita giving the agni pariksha(test by the fire) to prove her purity, an original work of art by the artist- A part of Ramayana Series

6. Gods with moustache

This is a deviant from most art forms, where Gods do not sport moustaches. Be it Kerala mural art form or any other, we see that clean faces and aesthetic appeal mark the Gods. The moustache is only reserved for the demons and the villains. But in Kaavi kale Ram and Ravan both have moustaches……

War between Rama and Ravana, an original work of art by the artist- A part of Ramayana Series

7. No documents on the art were available, the only source of information was a book by Dr.Krishnanand Kamath

When Mrs.Veena Srinivas came across this art form, she wanted to know all there was to it. Sadly, she found that there were absolutely no records with the temple authorities. The main and only source of information was a book by Dr.Krishnanand Kamath. He was the first researcher to elaborately study and document ‘Kaavi Art’. His books ‘Kaavikale’ (in Kannada) and ‘Konkanyangele Kaavikala’ (in Konkani) are the most authoritative works on Kaavi murals.

Dr. Krishnanand Kamath in his book 'Konkanyangele Kaavikale'

‘Konkanyangele Kaavikala’ (in Konkani) by Dr.Krishnanand Kamath

8.Some history lost with temple renovations

As I go through the book, I discover that some of the pictures and temples mentioned by Dr.Kamath no longer have ‘Kaavi kale’ on their walls. When temples opt for renovations and sturdier options for walls like granite, a part of history is lost… Unfortunately irretrievably lost.

Dr. Krishnanand Kamath in his book 'Konkanyangele Kaavikale'
Image from the book by Dr.Krishnanand Kamath

9.Artist’s message- We have no right to destroy, that which we cannot create

But we can work on what is available and when I asked the artist the way forward for the art, she says that we can retain some aspects of the art if not on walls, at least on Canvas. She conducts workshops for 2 to 3 days introducing the participants to this art form. She has conducted workshops in schools across Mangalore and Channarayapattana. If we help the next generation appreciate the art form and impart the nuances, they can work and build on it going forward. At least they will not be ignorant like me, let them at least know what it is called.

Workshop on art, Kaavi kale
Workshop conducted at Canara Urwa School, Mangalore

10. Don’t be afraid to stand alone

When someone is different let us encourage them. The artist found her inspiration and encouragement in divinity. Though she initially started with the murals on temple walls, the mythological characters, the Suryamandala, Chandramandala, Dashavataara, Sapthamatrikas and other designs, she says that there is scope for originality and creativity. She has completed her senior fellowship with the ministry of culture and depicted the Ramayana in 16 paintings. These are her original artworks which she has kindly shared with me here. Though the original process is not retained, the art is no longer confined to walls. She works with acrylic on canvas and watercolour on paper.

As we wind up, and my post goes up, the legacy is passed on….Write me your thoughts on this art form.

Twinkles to you…have a happy day.

Anupama

PC: Photos of the artist and original works of art belong to Mrs.Veena Srinivas and require her permission to be used.

Note- The artist can be contacted for orders or workshops at .

Workshops can be arranged for Bangalore. If groups of minimum 10 are interested, the artist can conduct the workshop. You can also contact me